Now, we say this again and again, but it does bear repeating as it is very important and really the key to the power of following your intuition.

Follow what feels better right in the moment of doing it, speaking it, or thinking it.

Not what tastes better…
Not what smells better…
Not what looks better…
Not what sounds better…
Not what feels better to your fingers or your toes…

Follow what brings you an uplifting sense of relief right in the act of doing it, thinking it, or saying it.

In other words, look for the path of instant vibrational relief.

Now, you might have heard that this is what an addict does. They are looking for the next fix, the next thing that will make them feel better.

But consider this: When you eat something because you want to feel better, you’re still delaying the experience of feeling immediate vibrational relief because that relief is based on the pleasure that the food will bring you. You can change the word eat/food to inhale/drug, drink/alcohol, or whatever else you believe an addiction is.

Ask an addict who has been there and they will tell you that the food in and of itself does not bring pleasure, or if it does, that pleasure is temporary, because part of the problem is that they never stop to actually feel the pleasure (or the relief) and then follow the next better-feeling thought.

It was their belief that the food would bring pleasure later that keeps them in the cycle of dependence on the thing that they don’t like.

Now, unless you are asking this question about yourself, your very best approach is to give your friend the space to find their own way.

Imagine that they are actually finding the real relief they are seeking. And then let them go.

You cannot fix what is actually not broken. It is up to the other person to find that awareness within themselves.

We are not suggesting action or inaction here. But we are suggesting that, rather than trying to understand something that is patently insane — that relief must wait until sacrifice has been endured, which is the basis of all pain in your culture — try to find the version of the person that you do want to see: the one where they are having what they are really and truly wanting.

You know what it looks like to see relief on another person’s face as they finally let go of their heavy burden.

See that image in front of you.

Imagine your friend in that place and feel the waves of relief flowing off of them.

And then, and only then, take whatever action is inspiring to you and that feels better to you as you take it.

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You are the master of the reality you have chosen to live in and it is always your decision as to which version of each person with whom you are in relationship that you will experience.

Do you want to connect with the one who is easy to be with, who adores you, who is open to the relationship, who wants to spend time with you? Or do you want to connect with the one who is distant and difficult and not very interested in the you that you are?

Do you want to connect with the one who is easy to give to and receive from? Or do you want to connect with the one who is closed down and unable to give or receive easily?

How do you connect in this way, you may very well ask.

Well, you begin by being clear about what evidence you will see as proof of what you are wanting and what evidence you will overlook.

If you see their openness and connection and adoration and overlook their unwillingness to connect and their cynicism, then you are actively choosing the version you prefer.

Remember, you are not controlling them, far from it.

You are simply making the powerful choice to experience what you want to experience and knowing that regardless of the form, the vibration of the wanted experience is right there, right now, with you where you are.

This is very powerful, indeed.

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When someone does something because they think that in order to get to where they want to be, this more expanded place where they feel better, where they have relief, they’ve got to do things that are unsavory, either in very obvious ways such as hurting another person or pushing them out of the way, or shoving them to the side, or barreling through a situation, or simply just telling someone, “hey, you can’t have what you want because I’ve got to have what I want” or “you can’t have want you want because I can’t have what I want.”

Or they may do this in more subtle ways by trying to get things to happen or trying to manipulate other people or to maneuver them into place or to get themselves somehow or another situated within themselves so that they can actually feel better.

All of these tactics, all of these schemes, really are designed to do the same thing, just from varying places and to varying degrees.

They are designed to get to that point of relief.

The problem, as you well know, is that when you are reaching for relief and you don’t allow yourself to have it immediately, you’re delaying what it is that you’re wanting.

And if you’re not quite aware of the fact that you can have it right now, and that you don’t have to wait, then it can seem to get more and more complicated and more and more thorny and more and more difficult.

So we invite you not to try to like the unlikable or accept the unacceptable or even want the unwanted but we invite you to, as you go around asking your questions, noticing whether it’s a call for love or it’s an expression of love but to realize those are really the only two things that are ever going on, and to also notice that everyone, everywhere really is doing the very best that they can.

And we invite you to find the most positive interpretation that you can find on the behavior that you observe in other people.

We really do want to emphasize this, not because it’s important for them for you to hold them in some sort of expanded vibrational place, although that is a wonderful gift indeed, but because it’s important for you.

For what you see in another person is what you’re affirming for yourself.

And if you see them as being trapped, or as being devious, or as being small-minded, or as being hurtful, the person you’re really looking at is you, because you’re just a vibrational match to whatever it is that you can see.

But do not fear because you can always reach for an expanded explanation of what you are seeing and the simplest one, of course, when you are observing something that you really don’t like, is to simply state, because it will always be true, that what the person you are observing is doing is reaching for more love.

They may be delaying it but they’re definitely reaching for it.

They just want relief from where they are.

They’re not to be pitied or to be blamed or be held in any spot other than just the realization that this is what they’re doing.

Now, again, we’re not trying to get you to do anything.

We’re not trying to get you to change your mind or to notice something that you don’t want to notice or to like something that you don’t want to like.

We’re just suggesting, for your own sake, that you look at the people in your life, particularly in the arena of work where this can be one of the most thorny aspects of doing your job, being at work, working with your client, working with your employees, working with your supervisors, and working with your colleagues.

We’re simply suggesting that you find ways to ascribe the most positive interpretation that you can give to the motives and to the actions and to the expressions that they bring to the table.

Excerpted from Loving What You Do Conversation #21

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Whatever you are offering, be them widgets or services or just fries to go with that, it doesn’t matter. What you are offering is what is WANTED and not what is NEEDED.

Who would want to feel that kind of neediness? It’s sticky and a bit awful. And it certainly makes it difficult for your customers to WANT to part with their delicious cash.

What you want is for your products and your services to be delightful objects that are wanted. They are amazing gifts. They are like the presents under the tree or just waiting to be given, wrapped in the nicest paper, and tied up with a bow. And, wow, what’s inside? Why, much more than any paper or bow could indicate. Juicy, juicy delights are waiting to be uncovered.

What you are offering, always, is the WANTED end of your product or service stick. The quality that you imbue them with, considering how you think about them, how you consider them, the vibration you give to them… This quality is what your customer will be relating to and will be interpreting whenever they read about, pick up, hear about, or just plain think about your products and services.

You can stop whatever you are doing right now and just love your products and services. It’s never too late to do this. No matter what has happened in the past. No matter how many or how few you have sold, you can always start fresh, from a vibrational perspective.

It’s never, ever, too late to fall in love with your delicious creations.

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I normally don’t write in this way, but I wanted to take a brief moment to express my personal appreciation for what Jerry has done.

You may have heard Paul refer to what they call “Master Questioners.” These are people who are adept at asking questions of non-physical sources such as Paul and Abraham and who love doing so just for the sake of it.

I would consider Jerry Hicks to be one. It was his mastery in asking questions that is the reason Abraham was able to come forth through Esther. And that was a very good thing, as far as I am concerned.

I so appreciate the ways in which he asked questions, the amazing rockets of desires that he launched throughout his very interesting lifetime, and what he allowed to happen through him and around him. There has been so much amazing opening and allowing that millions of people have reached because of his persistence in asking questions.

More than just asking questions, what a Master Questioner so often does is persist, push, and prod until they find the answers they are looking for. They won’t just accept what is given. They want to find that perfect vibrational match. Even if they are not conscious of doing so.

I have been blessed in these last years to have worked with many Master Questioners and their persistence has been delicious.

I thank Jerry specifically for showing me how to arrange things in my life so as to be able to do this very thing: to channel my dear friends Paul in their powerful Communion of Light experience and bring forth thousands and thousands of answers to all manner of wonderful questions.

We never met but it was at an Abraham workshop, in San Antonio, in September of 2007, where I finally saw the answer to my own persistent questions about what it means, in a very physical sense, to be a channel.

It wasn’t how Esther did what she does; it was how Jerry did what he did: the layout of the room, the equipment they were using, and how Jerry told the audience about their products and services.

But more than anything, it was Jerry’s very positive and very clear appreciation for all that Abraham, through Esther, was bringing forth. This appreciation is obvious in all of their materials, it sings forth from their website, and you can just plain hear it in Jerry’s voice when he is at a workshop, when he’s introducing a CD, or when he’s reading one of the Abraham books. This appreciation was, and continues to be, a very powerful gift to behold and I keep discovering more and more about its very real power.

So, thank you Jerry Hicks! Much love as you continue your delicious journey from you new point of focus. I’m sure it’s going to be, and already is, quite amazing!

If you get this in time, please join me on the Matt & Phil Radio Show along with Laura Gevanter, Jeannette Maw, and Phil Giuliano as we appreciate the heck out of Jerry. That will be Wednesday night, November 23rd, at 7:30 pm EST.

Read Esther’s very beautiful open letter about Jerry’s passing.

UPDATE:

Here’s the conversation we had tonight the Matt & Phil Radio Show:

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